Instead of trying to escape from unhappiness, to make it go away, we might try to embrace the feeling of unhappiness, to make an effort to experience the unhappiness, stay with it, and not try get rid of it. Why should we do this?
Often our unhappiness gets worse when we react to it because we don’t like it. We’re caught up in a fight within ourselves in which the one part of us that wishes it were not unhappy struggles with the side that is unhappy, and the two enter into conflict. If we don’t react in this way, there is no such fight, no division inside us and the unhappiness begins to fade.