We can only transform right now in this moment. In fact we can’t even do that because the effort of transformation will mean that the moment is lost. Transformation will only happen when we accept ourselves as we are. We go around chasing this that and the other, but this is only an escape. Transformation happens when we stop trying to escape from how we are. Transformation happens when we allow ourselves to be as we are. We don’t want to be seen to be lonely, bored , empty, unsuccessful, a social disaster, so when we feel like this the instinct is to escape that feeling. There is how we transform, simply through not escaping. Everything else, all talk of transformation is a fantasy.